A reflection by Mother Maria-Michael Newe, OSB.
I would like to say a few words about friendship— a relationship which is important. Friendship usually consists in the fact that we find an appreciation or a likeness in somebody else in the way they think or in the things they enjoy. But, not all friendship is from God. As St. Paul says you have to “test the spirits.” We may enjoy somebody, but for what reasons? That’s what’s so important. Friendship should always begin with a striving for what is good and right and for virtue. Sadly, I think the world today views friendship as “What can I get out of you for me?”
We’ve lost the gift of friendship and what it means to simply love somebody for who they are. The person we love belongs to God and is not a tool for our gratification. Friendships without this all break up because they must be grounded in God. If friendship is not grounded in God, it will never achieve its purpose. We should be encouraging each other in virtue and striving for that which makes life holy. And friendship is holy when it brings this about. Look at the things that unite you with your friends. Is it doing good works for others? Is it love?